If you had told me that six months ago, I would have said you were crazy and probably smoking something illegal. But it happened. On April 4th, I married the man of my dreams. He is wonderful in all his great qualities as well as his imperfections. I have written about how our courtship began here, but our love story has developed significantly since that post in January. Who knew that I would be here writing about getting married? Wow!
As Robert and I started talking about marriage and sharing our life together, I got a little scared. You know that fear inside you that says, “It hasn’t worked out before with men, and so many of your friends have struggled with marriage, how is this different?” I have to believe that they each had the love and hope I share with Robert and that our life together will be filled with joy and laughter. Statistically, we have a fighting chance of at least a 50% of staying together.
I think we can increase the odds in our favor by the fact that:
1. We have known each other since we were 14 — not too much to hide there.
2. We are both in our 30′s and have been around the block a few times to know what we want and don’t want in a relationship.
3. We are both friends and lovers.
I was confident saying my vows! I knew I was taking a chance on love and marriage with the right guy.
He is a strong man who has his own beliefs, which is important to me. I never wanted a pushover or someone who acquiesces to my every whim — even though that sounds kind of appealing at times (However, late night ice cream craving runs are a must!). He stands up for what he believes in and he is a man of action. So much so that he signed up to be in the Army a year and a half ago. I don’t know many 36-year-old men who would do that. Sometimes I am in awe of him and that makes me want to be the best I can be. Now, if only I can get him to put the toilet seat down. Lol.
I gave up a lot to be with him: My home, my family and friends, and maybe even my marketing career, but I gained so much more. I know that I will still see my family and friends and that I will make new friends. I know that I will find myself a new career. Who knows? Maybe this writing thing will pan out. All I know is that this is where I am supposed to be.
Don’t get me wrong. I have had some seriously emotional moments missing folks and my life back home in Michigan, but I know, and more importantly Robert knows, I am strong enough to do this. His faith and belief in me makes me feel like I could jump tall buildings with a single bound and I think he would say I would look sexy in a red cape.
We have also had some amazing moments of laughter and of discussions about the world around us. He makes me think about things differently and he can make me laugh until I cry. I love those moments. Our shared private jokes and his smile make my heart skip a beat.
I know that we will have rough patches, but I think we work well together as a team! Anything is possible and that is both exciting and scary. What I do know for sure is that it will all be OK because Robert will be by my side.